100. That's how many nights I've crawled in bed next to a guy I can call my husband. That's how many days I've watched him slip a ring on his finger before he goes to work. That's how many days I've had a true, biblical partner. So many things about my life has changed in just 100 days. I went from a single, selfish girl to a married, yet still selfish, girl. Through marriage the Lord has put a mirror right in front of my face so that I can see my ugly selfishness clear as crystal. Marriage has shown me my sinfulness in a way that I'm daily forced to recognize my need for grace. Sometimes, when we have "good" days, it is easy to forget how innately sinful we were are. Sometimes I forget my desperate need for grace. But, thanks to marriage, I don't have as many opportunities to forget. It's funny how God uses marriage like that. When I was a little girl, I thought that marriage was about two people coming together, loving one another, and having some sort of a "happily ever after". When marriage is really about striving to live a life sold out the gospel while God uses a partner to strengthen you, challenge you, and support you. The Lord has really started to teach me so much through our marriage, even though we've only been marriage for a second. Here are a few things, silly and serious, that I've learned in 100 days of marriage.
1. I'm terrible at doing laundry... I'd almost rather cut my own arm off.
2. Ty is a picky eater. I might as well get over the fact that I'll never cook anything green.
3. I will almost always fall asleep first and I'll most definitely fall asleep in every movie we watch in bed after 7 pm.
4. I somehow manage to share a pillow with him some nights. I guess I like to cuddle in my subconscious.
5. I'm horribly selfish. Ty is much more selfless than me and I'm almost always slapped in the face by how selflessly he loves me. It makes me want to be more like him.
6. It's okay if Ty only makes the bed twice a week. Life really does go on.
7. And it's okay if I don't point out every time that he doesn't make the bed. I don't have to take every opportunity to nag.
8. Our go to meal will ALWAYS be breakfast for dinner. It's a classic.
9. Sometimes I just want to be mad. It's a TERRIBLE habit that I really need to kick.
10. Being able to talk about sex is fun. And flirting when you know where it will lead is pretty fun, too.
11. One of my favorite moments of the day is when we hold hands and pray over dinner.
12. You have to be even more intentional with a marriage than you do with a dating relationship. When you see someone day in and day out it's easy to fall into "routines" that don't encourage your marriage. I'm trying to remember to always be intentional with the time that we spend together.
13. I don't need all those things I thought I did to make our home look complete. I've learned a lot about the difference between a needing and wanting. I actually need very, very little.
14. Having godly couple friends that support our marriage has been one of the biggest blessings of our lives. We've needed those kind of people in our lives.
15. While I can't wait to have babies... I've learned that having a Bella and a Beau is more than enough for us for now!
Here's to the next 100 days!